Fear is an affection
Today I wanted to share a text written by my dear childhood friend and psychologist /psychoanalyst Adriana Prosdocimi. We will not be talking about Cryptocurrencies or blockchain technology, we will rather try to connect with ourselves and understand our deep feelings of fear. A feeling or as she presented an affection that we all experience and that has certainly been exacerbated by the 2020 Pandemic. Here is a fresh outlook! (Michelle M.)
Be wary of your fears, they can point you in the direction of your dreams.
We are afraid to be afraid. And it shouldn’t be that way, because fear is a very useful feeling. It protects us, defends us from external and internal dangers, but also from the fulfillment of our dreams.
But how? Fear sometimes protects us from doing what we want. As it is often difficult to know what you really want, we have to take advantage of the clues and fear is one of them.
If fear causes anxiety in the face of a possibility of failure, in some way it tells us what “success” would be then. If fear paralyzes us, we do not fail, but neither do we achieve.
Fear tells about how a stimulus affects us and the emotion that evokes us, that is, about how we respond to that stimulus. So, what is your choice: to accept or repress?
Welcoming fear, an act of courage
If fear is a feeling of human nature, we should really ask ourselves this question: accept it or repress it?
To welcome, you need to transform your perception of fear.
When a stimulus (internal or external) causes fear, it evokes a response, an emotion. There are several ways to respond to this fear: by disguising, disguising, with emotions such as anger, sadness or tyranny.
Fear can go through a phase of indeterminacy and there it appears as anguish. Canceling fear or pretending that it does not exist, without trying to find out what causes that feeling, can lead to depression, anxiety and emotional disturbances.
The way out of indeterminacy is when anguish turns into fear, when the object (which causes fear) becomes clearer, which gives us more possibilities to do something with it.
Doing something means, in some way, focusing on what generates pain, embracing that feeling and not avoiding it at all costs. One of the possible solutions is courage, which involves focusing on what causes discomfort.
“Courage is a virtue that arises from the treatment we give to fear and maturity has to do with the ability to develop more complex reactions to the fear we feel.” Christian Dunker, psychoanalyst and professor at the Institute of Psychology at the University of São Paulo.
Choose courage and not fear. Courage is not an absence of fear, this is nonsense. Courage is the confrontation of fear, which includes recognition and acceptance. Fear can paralyze, but it can also be a spring, an impulse that leads to its crossing and to great achievements.
What are you afraid of?
By Adriana Prosdocimi
Find original in Portuguese at: https://adrianaprosdocimi.com/2020/11/23/o-medo-e-um-afeto/
Translated by: Michelle M.
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Originally published at https://www.mammycrypto.com on November 29, 2020.